Surrogacy Awareness Week 2024

Jo’s journey into surrogacy was born out of empathy for two of her friends who faced reproductive health challenges. She yearned to assist individuals who could not carry a pregnancy themselves. Having recently separated from her husband, Jo recognized this period as her window of opportunity to turn her dream into reality.

Her research led her to a UK-based surrogacy service, Surrogacy UK (SUK), which she resonated with because of its friendly ethos and transparent processes.

Upon joining SUK in January 2019, Jo was swept into an exciting, albeit somewhat secretive whirlwind. She decided to keep her surrogacy plans under wraps from her friends and family until she had thoroughly assessed the situation.

Attending her first social event organized by SUK, she met Sophie and Adam, an unassuming couple from Wirral who would later become significant figures in her life.

Initially, her parents expressed concerns about her decision, but after reading a comprehensive article about Laura Morgan, a renowned surrogate, and her team, they eventually came around. Jo’s open and honest approach helped diffuse any further doubts, a tactic she often employs when faced with misconceptions or negative opinions about surrogacy.

Jo’s relationship with Sophie and Adam blossomed gradually, characterised by low-key meetups at parks, beaches, zoos, and each other’s houses. To introduce Sophie and Adam to her daughters, Jo cleverly incorporated “The Kangaroo Pouch,” a children’s book about surrogacy, into their reading routine. When she eventually revealed that she was pregnant with Sophie and Adam’s baby, her daughters were able to make the connection through the story.

Jo’s pregnancy journey was not without its challenges. The initial stages were accompanied by nerve-wracking bleeding episodes, but relief came with the successful seven-week scan. COVID-19 lockdown restrictions brought additional uncertainty, including the potential of Jo having to birth alone. But thanks to the efforts of the Highfield Home-birth Team, she was able to have her mother, Sophie, and Adam present during the birth.

Jo describes the birth of Theo in June 2020, right into Sophie’s arms, as an incredible experience. After Theo’s birth, Jo remained in close contact with Sophie and Adam, and they still maintain a warm friendship. They embarked on a second surrogacy journey together, and Toby joined their family in February 2022.

Jo views her surrogate experience as an honour that has enriched her life in unimaginable ways. She has gained new friends, opened up unique opportunities, and has been part of the joy of parenthood for others. She also provides guidance to other potential surrogates through SUK.

Reflecting on her journey, Jo felt a little naive about the IVF process at the start. However, she appreciated the relaxed approach of the Hewitt Centre at Liverpool Women’s Hospital, even though she understands that it might not suit all intended parents.

In addition to all these experiences, Jo expresses her deep gratitude to SUK for its continued support throughout her surrogacy journeys. The organisation’s thorough preparation, helpful resources, and constant backing have been invaluable. Jo feels privileged to be able to give back to the community by being a support worker for newer surrogates.

Her journey embodies a remarkable spirit of selflessness and compassion, illuminating the profound bonds that can form in the most unexpected of places.