After thousands of votes from the public we are proud to announce the:
National Surrogacy Awards Winners 2019
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Voting now open!
Voting for the National Surrogacy Awards is now underway!
To vote for your favourite visit HERE
Surrogacy Fertility Professional of the Year
- Sarah Templeman – Herts & Essex Fertility Centre
- Sue Ingamells – Wessex Fertility
- Francesca Steyn – CRGH
Surrogacy Fertility Clinic of the Year
- Herts & Essex Fertility Centre
- CRGH
- Jessops Sheffield
- Wessex Fertility
- London Women’s Clinic
Surrogacy Maternity Professional of the Year
- Jessica Smart
- North Lincolnshire Midwifery Team
- Milton Keynes Midwifery Team
- Jo Heath
Surrogacy Professional of the Year
- Gemma Hart-Dyke – Brilliant Beginnings
- Natalie Gamble – Natalie Gamble Associates
- Bethan Carr – Stowe Family Law
- Andrew Spearman – Laytons
- Sarah Taylor Jones – Surrogacy UK
- Michael Ellis Johnson – Two Daddies UK
Surrogacy Awareness Champion of the Year
- Michael Ellis Johnson – Two Daddies UK
- Jason Brown
- Sarah Taylor Jones – Surrogacy UK
- Linder Wilkinson
- Jemma Black
- Neil McDonagh
- Gina Kinson – Hope Surrogacy
- Lance Black
National Surrogacy Week is back!
After the amazing success of the first ever National Surrogacy Week, and the National Surrogacy Awards, we are back for our 2nd year.
There is still so much awareness that needs to be raised about surrogacy in the UK, and so many myths to dispel that a dedicated week is very much needed to help those who are looking into surrogacy.
Every day we will be sharing stories, resources, articles that will help inform the public and give hope that yes, surrogacy is very much an option in the UK. In fact UK surrogacy is thriving! With more surrogates signing up than ever before, surrogacy is only set to increase and continue to be an acceptable pathway to parenthood.
Alongside National Surrogacy Week, we have also launched our nomination process for the National Surrogacy Awards which celebrates the best practice of surrogacy professionals, the winners of which will be chosen by the public!
Please do nominate your Surrogacy Professional of the year HERE
We look forward to what National Surrogacy Week will bring this year!
Surrogacy – where to start?
So you think surrogacy might be for you but where to start?
There’s so many options, so many websites, so many countries, laws and things to consider – it can be confusing and overwhelming.
Where can you go for accurate advice?
Government Guidance
The government have recently issued official guidance on surrogacy – both for healthcare professionals and for those undertaking surrogacy themselves.
Surrogacy Organisations
There are three not-for-profit surrogacy organisations in the UK.
Each organisation operates slightly differently- contact each one, obtain information, ask advice and see if an organisation is something you feel might help you on your journey.
Independent Surrogacy
You do not need to go through an organisation to undertake surrogacy in the UK.
There are various independent support groups that operate on the internet
In addition there are a number of closed facebook groups that offer advice and support.
One of the largest is The Foyer – UK, which can be found through the search facility and can be accessed by answering the Administrators questions.
Surrogacy Blogs
A great way to find out more about surrogacy is to follow the journey of surrogates and intended parents themselves.
Legal Advice
There are a number of legal firms in the UK who offer surrogacy services and advice.
Can advise on both international and domestic surrogacy.
Fertility Counselling
It is important to consider counselling when thinking about surrogacy and there are a number of fertility specific counsellors available around the country.
The British Infertility Counselling Association can provide details of counsellors and information on fertility counselling.
Find a Clinic
If undertaking host surrogacy, or surrogacy that involves egg or sperm donation you will need a fertility clinic.
The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority are the UK Governments independent regulator of fertility clinics.
They can provide you with clinic information and you can view success rates and patient reviews.
It is worth noting that surrogacy treatment may not be advertised on clinic websites but the majority of clinics do offer it.
When dealing with a clinic do ask if they have a surrogacy coordinator as this will be your main contact through your treatment.
Funding and financing
Surrogacy is usually self funded.
In some cases embryo creation may be available via the NHS. This is usually for women who have had cancer or those with MRKH.
It is definately worth checking with your NHS trust in the first instance.
If undertaking host surrogacy in the UK, IPs should budget £30k and for traditional surrogacy £20k.
These costs include testing, clinic and treatment costs, visits with your surrogate, cost of parental order and surrogates reasonable expenses.
At this moment in time fertility financing is not available for surrogacy as it is for regular IVF through Access Fertility.
Low cost IVF through clinics such as ABC IVF is also not available those requiring surrogacy treatment, meaning that on the whole intended parents need to budget the amounts detailed above for their journey.
Charities such as The Fertility Foundation have recognised the need to help intended parents by including surrogacy in their fertility grant programme, we hope that other charities, finance companies and clinics follow suit to provide help to intended parents.
Talk to Others
When starting your journey it is key to connect with others who have been through the process. Not only will it provide you with first hand knowledge it will act as your support network for your future journey.
Surrogacy Events
There are a number of events coming up that can help you start your journey.
Herts and Essex Fertility – Surrogacy open evening – 9th August 2018
Surrogacy UK Conference – 15th September 2018
Families through Surrogacy seminars – October 2018
Ultimately, take your time. Surrogacy isnt something that should be rushed – look at all the information out there and think about which way is best for you.
A surrogacy birth story
THE BETS
Sarah: Im betting its going to be 8lbs 4ozs!!
Nick: Based on intuition, experience, or something else?!
Sarah: Dont feel too big and Georgina was 8lbs 2ozs and i think it might be a little bigger!! the fact i can still walk means its not going to be nearly 11lbs like alfie!!!
Nick: I honestly know nothing. But I’ll stick my oar in, why not? I’m gonna go lower. Just under 8… How many ounces in a pound?
Sarah: 14?
Nick: Okay then. I’ll say 7 and 13!
Sarah: Ohhh bets are on!!! it will definately have a flash of dark hair too!!
Michael: I LOVE this. I’m gonna go light hair and 8lbs 1 oz. tee hee hee!
But am now definitely going BOY
Just a hunch
Sarah: It’ll never be blonde!! I’d put actual money on it!!!!! Oh and I’m still going for girl!!!
Michael: Fiver says fair/blonde!
Sarah: You’re on matey!!!
Michael: Deal. <Shakes>
THE BIG DAY
So, little Elliot was born at 2.20pm on Thursday 7 March. He weighed 8 lbs 5 oz, has a beautiful head of dark hair (though Michael keeps suggesting he can see lighter hair in there).
His entry into the world was a very quick and easy one – the caesarean section proceeded without accident nor incident and was all over within under an hour. Sarah was comfortable and in great humour throughout, and has continued to be so ever since, going through all the right recovery motions – getting up and walking as soon as possible thereafter, and being as active as possible given the major operation.
GETTING READY
The day started for us with an early wake up (after very little sleep from the anticipation of it all). We headed over to Sarah. Sarah was there and waiting, having not slept much herself because of all the excitement and spent a good part of the morning chatting away to the midwives – she’s part of the team now, having spent a couple of weeks on the ward and even acted as surro-birthing partner to some of the ladies!
We cannot say enough how BRILLIANT the hospital have been with us – they had already delivered a wonderful birth plan that breached policy by allowing both Michael and Nick into the operating theatre for the birth, and stated clearly that we were to be provided a room. That room was there for us straight away – a wonderful room with and en-suite full bathroom. Amazing! Word of our surrogacy and the ‘gay daddies’ has obviously made its way around the hospital as we have been questioned every time we’ve gone to the cafeteria by the staff there – before to find out whether anything had happened and after there was insistence on showing some photos from the phone.
PLAYING A WAITING GAME
So we got our stuff, moved into the room, and started waiting. In the end it took five hours till we were called – just before 2. By that point we were going up the walls a little – the first three hours had been fine, we’d sat and chatted through things lots, it was wonderful. By the third hour we were getting a little less patient… we’d had confirmation that not only were we not the first to go for a planned C-section (we’d found this out at 9am) but there was also a likely emergency C-section and another operation to stitch up a lady who’d had a tear. Sarah was in her operating togs, just in case, but we looked like we were in for a really long haul! Poor Sarah was super thirsty by this point, having had nil by mouth since midnight! You can imagine how guilty we felt at lunchtime when we had to go and get a bite to eat to make sure we could make it through the afternoon – but, as with everything else in the day, Sarah was wonderful, calm and generous, sending us on our ways to get a sandwich with barely a peep!
THE BIG MOMENT ARRIVES
Finally, just before 2pm, our wonderful midwife Katy came to collect us all and take us up to the delivery suite. Until then, we’d been so busy in the waiting game that we hadn’t contemplated fully what lay ahead. But there was no denying it now.
For Michael and Nick, the moment reality hit was when we were ushered into a room to put our operating theatre gowns on. We had a good few minutes waiting in there while Sarah had the anesthetic administered, and they were fairly tense moments – lightened only by the knowledge of how silly we looked.
For Sarah, the moment of entry into the theatre was the moment of truth. With lots of people busy and working away, a lot of equipment beeping and doing things, it certainly was an intimidating site. As she went into the room, she stopped and had to be pushed in by the midwife Katy. There was also a brief moment of sickness.
By the time Nick and Michael entered the room, shortly after 2pm, the operation was starting and Sarah was 100% back to normal. In fact, her face was the picture of serenity itself. Nick can’t comment on the rest as he was firmly glued to her face, being really rather squeamish. Michael, however, allowed himself not only a peek over the curtain but every so often a good old stare!
While the doctors got on with things, we continued our chats of the morning. Sarah described how little she could feel, and every so often the bits she could feel. It was all quite surreal, as you’d imagine, but not in any way horrible or discomforting, everyone was doing a wonderful job, all was going to plan and the midwife was being amazing at updating and reassuring us all.
A NEW ARRIVAL
About ten minutes after Nick and Michael entered the room, Michael started looking much more intently. And then he saw it! Two feet being pulled out, followed shortly thereafter by some, er, meat and two veg .
This was wonderful news, but not quite happening in the order of the agreed birth plan, which was that we would be presented with the new arrival all as one and look for ourselves! So Michael ‘had to self administer botox’ (his words) to keep his face completely schtum until the right moment!
The doctors rotated the legs and the baby a little and then gave a massive tug – Michael looking all the time and trying his best not to show his shock at how much of a pull they needed. And with a plop, Elliot emerged!
His (purple) body was taken over to a table nearby by the midwife and he was given a rub down. She then presented the new arrival to us. Michael’s botox at that point could wear off, and the joy came over us all. There were tears from Nick, smiles from Sarah and incredulity from Michael.
Babies born by a c-section are understandably a little unprepared and though a little less of an ordeal for them than a natural birth can sometimes be, it is a massive shock to the system so they need to be kept as warm as possible and calmed down immediately. This made possible the most wonderful moment of the whole time – a good ten minutes or so when Nick and Michael took turns to hold their beautiful son, all right next to Sarah’s face so she had a perfect view of those first moments of parenthood.
Elliot was beautiful, perfectly formed and slowly taking on a nice reddish pallor as he warmed up and got used to his new environment – and the hold of his doting parents. He made a few coos here and there, but was generally really quiet and contented. With some strategic placement of hands to cover the lights of the theatre, the stunning brightness of the room was reduced enough to entice him to open his little eyes and look up at the world he had just entered. And look into the eyes of two people who were falling in love with him there and then.
SARAH – OUR SURROGATE
As this post is being written by Nick and Michael, albeit after a good chat over things with Sarah, we get to monopolise it for a while to talk about Sarah. Words cannot express our feelings for her, throughout the whole pregnancy and then the birth, she has been the most amazing person. She is so calm, so collected, so laid-back, so friendly and caring. She has put herself through a long and sometimes grueling process, all for two other people who she knew so relatively little at the beginning. In the process, she has made us two of the happiest people in the world, and made friendships for life.
She also has the most amazing family – who have taken us into their hearts and allowed us to take them into ours. Each of her kids is wonderful, each in their own brilliant way – even though we would rather have avoided a two week hospital stay for Sarah, without this we would never have had the pleasure and privilege of looking after her two youngest kids for a few days – an experience we will treasure, and certainly never forget – especially the lessons we learned about how to look after four and six year olds!
And Nick, her husband. The most noticeable aspect to his character is that he is a talker. Because of this, you soon discover he is also one of the most caring and sensitive men we’ve ever met. He is full of giving and love. We loved that we got a night in with him and a selection of continental beers to chat over things and set the world to rights. We can’t wait to do it again!
Truly, that is the gift of surrogacy, families being made, families coming together as friends, people providing evidence that the world is a kinder, gentler and more giving world than the sometime selfish, cruel and violent world that it can be portrayed as in newspapers or other parts of society. We are so proud to be part of something so good. We know Elliot will be too.
