Meet Rachel, a 42-year-old single mum with a heart as big as her desire to help others.
A mother of three, with her eldest daughter living with a rare neurological condition, and two younger boys also with additional needs, Rachel’s life is packed with challenges.
Yet, despite the intricacies of her life, Rachel was determined to use her fertility superpower for the benefit of those struggling to become parents.
Rachel’s surrogacy journey began as many do – a deep dive into the world of Google and research. When she finally decided to embark on this remarkable journey, excitement bubbled within her. While her family and friends initially thought she was a tad crazy, their disbelief was soon replaced with immense pride, even as her sisters revealed that they, too, had considered being Known Egg Donors (KEDs).
In the face of misconceptions or unkind remarks, Rachel displays admirable resilience. She politely corrects the misconceptions and shrugs off the negativity, appreciating that everyone is entitled to their opinions.
Rachel found her Intended Parents (IPs) through a shared connection and mutual online stalking! After their initial meeting at a conference, they formed a strong bond. Their relationship is rooted in open communication, honesty, and mutual understanding, even when it comes to navigating the awkward aspects of surrogacy.
Rachel’s pregnancy as a surrogate, despite having three children of her own, was fraught with nausea and exhaustion.
Nevertheless, she found comfort in her IPs’ attentiveness and the understanding of her own children.
The birth itself was a momentous occasion, culminating in a perfect delivery. Handing over the baby to the IPs and witnessing the joy on their faces made it one of the proudest moments of her life.
The strong relationship continues, with regular contact and frequent visits that only strengthen their bond. Reflecting on her journey, Rachel expresses no regrets. In fact, she wishes she had embarked on the surrogacy path earlier!
The experience has made her acutely aware of the unfair laws around who can access fertility treatments – a revelation she hadn’t anticipated.
To those considering surrogacy, Rachel offers sage advice: ensure the support of your immediate family and friends, be confident in your mental resilience, and ensure your own children fully understand the process.
For Rachel, surrogacy was an empowering, magical experience that expanded her family in an unexpected and profound way.
Her story serves as a testament to the transformative power of compassion, courage, and the enduring desire to help others achieve their dreams of parenthood.
Surrogacy Awareness Week 2024 
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